The Rational Basis® of Happiness Podcast

1-Abuse 2-Sadness

1-Signs of an abusive relationship 2-Why don't I like myself or others?

1-Anger 2-Envy 3-Friendship vs Romance

1-My fiance can't handle being pregnant since I lost my job. 2-Stay away from envious people 3-Women like me, but only as a friend.

1-Bigotry 2-Happiness

1-Living or working with bigots (atarts at 7m02s) 2-Getting over my poor choices of the past.

1-Dating Anxiety 2-Child Abuse Signs (starts at 4m 57s) 3-Peer Pressure (starts at 6m 55s)

1-My girlfriend doesn't call 2-My son is afraid of me 1-Psychological Independence

1-Emotions 2-Independence

1-Changing long held ideas 2-Holding your own with peers

1-Expressing Affection Part 2 of 2 2-procrastination

1-I am afraid to tell my girlfriend how I like her. 2-Stopping procrastination

1-Groveling 2-Procrastination

1-I feel I have to please others 2-How can I stop procrastinating

1-Honesty 2-My Life's Purpose

1-Recovering from loss of trust in a lover, friend, or coworker 2-I have no financial needs, yet I have become a bitchy mom.

1-Honesty 2-Obsessions

1- Honesty - I discovered that my uncle is my father. 2-Obsessions - Which are good, which are bad.

1-I love you 2-Honesty 3-Psychological Independence

1-Why say this? 2-Six year old's fibs (starts at 4m47s) 3-Fear of Others (starts at 7m30s)

1-Insults 2-Child Visitation 3-Causeless Anger

1-Dealing with criticism 2-(starts at 2m20s) My wife denies me visitation rights. 3-(starts at 4m54s) I hate people and want all of us to die.

1-Moral Lies 2-New Career

1-Examples of moral lies 2-Starting a new career after being fired

1-Phobias 2-Getting a Life

1-My son has a severe germ phobia 2-I can't find my life purpose.

1-Shyness 2-Honesty

1-Is shyness treatable? 2- (5m30s) I discovered that my husband watches gay porn.

1-Stalker 2-Laughter

1-When a friend starts to stalk you 2-I laugh at all the wrong times

1-Teen Sex 2-Fear of Life 3-Giving Up

1-Sex is becoming a diluted value for youth 2--I am afraid of life since seeing a documentary on 911 3-Giving in to failure

1-Think First 2-Happiness (podcast order is 1, then 2)

1-How to prevent saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. 2-What is happiness?

1-Trust 2-Procrastination

1-I haven't trusted people since I was romantically deceived. 2-Why am I not following through on my goals?

1-Unearned Guilt 2-Discipline (keep this order for podcast)

1-Forced Volunteerism 2-How can I discipline my disrespectful step daughter?

Abandoned Mom

My kids shun me due to the influence of my con-man ex husband.

Abandoned Son

Should I try to reunite with a young son whom I abandoned?

Abuse and Body Weight

Is my weight loss due to abuse?

Abuse and Panic

I have had panic attacks since I was sexually abused at 8 years old

Abusive Boyfriend

Why do I love my abusive boyfriend?

Activism

How to take the first steps to become active for your favorite cause. A short interview with activist Lin Zinser

Activism

How to engage in effective intellectual activism - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

Activism

How to engage in effective intellectual activism - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

Activist, Becoming an

How to take the first steps in becoming an activist - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser.

Am I Nasty?

I get nasty with people without realizing it.

Am I Unlikable?

I was accused of being rude and was fired.

Ambition

(Begins 6m 46s) I want to make up for my unambitious early years.

Anger

Why does my ex continue to hate and torment me?

Anger

Should I abandon a good friend whom recently developed sever anger problems?

Anger Management

How can I control my anger?

Anger Management

My adult son is seething with anger.

Anger With Family

I have a problem controlling my anger.

Angry Neighbor

We lost our friendship with our neighbor due to a miscommunication.

Angry Silent Teenager

My angry teenage daughter doesn't talk or smile with adults.

Anorexic Friend

How do I help a friend whom recently became anorexic?

Anti-Social

My husband is increasingly anti-social.

Anti-Social

I no longer enjoy being with people. (begins 4minutes 33seconds in)

Anxiety with People

Is my constant avoiding of people social anxiety?

Appeasement

Appeasement backfires, in marriage, friendships, or politics

Appeasement; Individual and Political

Appeasement does not work, both in personal and political situations.

Appreciation

No one appreciates when I am helpful.

Arguments

My mom and grandma draw me into their arguments.

Art vs. Decoration

Having the courage to call bad art what it is. (begins at 8m 31s)

Bad Boss

My boss likes to be boot licked and worshiped.

Bad Boss

My boss hints that he wants to be bootlicked and worshipped.

Benevolence

When helping others is good . . . or bad.

Betrayed?

Why did my friend turn on me after I helped her repair her marriage?

Big Brother

I'm an only child and crave to have an older brother.

Blame Shifting

Why does my wife blame me for things she does?

Blended Family

I can't accept having a blended family with my ex.

Bullies vs. Whimps

I am always nice to people but they take advantage of me.

Busybodies

Should I report my friend's homosexuality to his family?

Career Change

I want to change my career but don't know how to go about it.

Career Change

DON'T USE AS PODCAST I'm having difficulty switching careers

Career vs Family

How do I decide between my career choice and working for my dad?

Career vs Friendship

Should I focus on moving to advance my career, or stay put to be with my best friend?

Career vs Romance

I can't agree with my boyfriend about where to live.

Character

How can I tell if I am being used? (begins at 5 minutes 23 seconds)

Charity Pros and Cons

When is it proper or not to help someone in need

Choices and Conformity

(starts 5m 41s) I caught my friend drinking and smoking.

Choosing Sides

Choosing one side when two friends fight.

Co-Worker Issues

I have a trouble making paranoid coworker.

Commitment

I'm tired of being alone but my boyfriend won't commit.

Communication

I shut down when others talk about their problems.

Communication

How can I resolve a communication problem with my coworker?

Communication Errors

I come across as selfish and insensitive.

Communication With Co-Workers

I am too aggressive with my co-workers

Communication With Mother

How can I best communicate with my 90 year old mother who talks continuously and exclusively about her fringe religion?

Communication With Wife

How can I tell my wife that her son has taboo fantasies?

Competing With His ex

My boyfriend is too close to his ex wife.

Complements

(starts at 2m 18s) False praise backfires

Confidence

Dealing with people who love to complain - a short interview with Dr. Andy Bernstein.

Conflicting Opinions

I live with my parents whom have different values.

Control - The Need For

After her brain surgery, my wife thinks I am too controling and wants a restraining order.

Controlled by Girlfriend

How can I keep my independence in the face of a controlling girlfriend?

Controlling Co-Worker

My supervisor refuses to deal with my controlling busybody co-worker.

Controlling Friend

My friend won't take no for an answer.

Controlling Husband

I cant cope with a husband who has a 1950's attitude about parenting and housework.

Controlling Mom

I wake up crying from my dreams about my abusive controling mom.

Controlling Wife

How can I deal with my controlling wife?

Conversation Tips

Two ways to make difficult conversations easier - a short interview with presenter Jean Moroney

Courage and Integrity

Building Courage and Integrity by speaking up for your rational values - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

Courtship Dance

Should I pursue a romance or just remain friends?

Coworker Difficulties

I am unable to deal with my difficult coworkers

Coworker Issues

I'm ostracized by a group of my coworkers.

Coworker Issues

My coworker's paranoia causes problems for everyone.

Coworkers

How can I deal with my annoying coworker?

Coworkers

My coworkers think I am disagreeable and nuts.

Coworkers

What have I done to alienate my coworkers?

Criminal Minds

Why has our good parenting created a bad son?

Critical Parent

Why does my sister defend our father who only focuses on the negative in us?

Criticism

My mom can't take criticism.

Criticism

How can I tactfully make suggestions to a sister who makes horrible life style decisions?

Criticism

I always get teary about things.

Criticism

How can I tactfully make suggestions to a sister who makes horrible lifestyle decisions?

Cyber Stalking

My internet romance turned into bizarre stalking.

Cyber Stalking

My internet romance turned bizarre

Dating Danger Signs

Should I stay engaged or move on?

Dating Reluctance

My son was romantically hurt and won't date anymore.

Death's Doorstep

Respecting the dying patient's choices and values - with Dr. Ed Martin

Death's Doorstep

Delivering Difficult News - with Dr. Ed Martin

Deception

My friend started dating my ex. (podcast to be continued tomorrow)

Depressed and Withdrawn

My 16 year old lost interest in friends, school, dating, and family.

Depression and Fear

I'm 14 and so depressed that I don't want to do anything.

Dishonest Friend

My friend lied in a big way.

Dishonesty Detection

How do I judge a good friend who spread a rumor about me?

Dishonesty's Revenge

I'm a reformed compulsive liar with friends who still believe my lies

Dishonesty, apologies, and forgiveness

My boyfriend does not trust me for trivial reasons.

Divorce - Should I?

Should I leave my alcoholic unfaithful husband?

Divorce and Justice

I gave up my career for a man who wants a divorce.

Divorce, Should I?

Should I stay with a husband who has both good and bad points?

Elder Care

Compassion without sacrifice

Elder Care

My siblings and I disagree about how to care for our aging mom.

Elder Care Issues

My mom is getting too psychologically dependent on me.

Envy

In my culture I have to hide my good looks.

Envy

How can I get along with my envious sister?

Envy; A Cure

I am envious of my friends good fortune

Exclusivity

My man has too many woman friends.

Expressing Affection Part 1 of 2

I am afraid to tell my girlfriend how I like her.

Faith, Reason, and Happiness

Why faith is an obstacle to happiness

Faked Happiness

I fake my happiness even though I sin.

Family Appeasement

My fiance's ex threatened to kill me if I meet his daughter.

Family Dynamics

My husband favors my daughter over me.

Family Dynamics

My son is good but my spoiled daughter favors my husband over me.

Family Dynamics

Mom, dad, kids, drifting apart due to love/hate relationships

Family Friction

My daughter-in-law won't let my son see me.

Fantasy

My friend can't tell the difference between dreams and reality

Fear of Neighbors

I am afraid of my aggressive neighbors.

Friendship

I'm anxious because I think my friend is avoiding me.

Friendship Ruined

How can I repair a relationship I ruined with my best friend?

Gay Closet Anxiety

I feel a successful gay relationship is impossible

Gifts

Help! I'm dating a cheapskate.

Grief, Death, and Friendship

Help me get over the death of a dear friend.

Grieving Romantic Loss

I don't want my wife to divorce me.

Guilty Divorce

In my heart I want my abusive husband back.

Habits and Free Choice

How can I help my fiance stay faithful?

Handling Crises

How do you handle a mini-crisis?

Happiness - The Rational Path

Does happiness require self-sacrifice or moral ambitiousness?

Happiness and Independence

My happiness is totally dependent upon my boyfriend.

Harassed by Coworker

My coworker harasses me so much that I want to quit.

Hard Decisions

My boyfriend can't stop being friends with his ex.

Healing From Infidelity

My sister always reminds my wife that I was unfaithful one time only.

Helpfulness

People dislike me for being helpful.

Impatience

I am impatient and obsessive about my cautious boyfriend.

Independence

I am pre-occupied with what others think of me.

Independence

My student mentoring is more frustrating than rewarding.

Independence

My girlfriend thinks I should constantly be giving her money.

Independence

My religious parents try too hard to push it on me.

Independence

Loss of independence as you age (begins 7minutes 47seconds in)

Independence

How can I tell my aunt to stop being a busybody?

Independence

I am preoccupied with what others think of me.

Infidelity Online

My boyfriend has cybersex.

Infidelity? Repairs.

How do you rebuild your relationship if you discover your partner had an affair? A short interview with Dr. Tiffani Kisler.

Insecurity

This bright 13 year old crys a lot and has many phobias.

Integrity

How can I make up for reading my friend's diary?

Intellectual Activism

How to take the first steps in defending your ideas - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

Intimacy Disinterest

My girlfriend lost interest in the romantic part of our relationship.

Irrational Mom

My mom is divisive regarding all us kids

Irritability

Husband drives wife crazy complaining about all smells and noises.

Is he 'The One'?

How do you know when you have found the right match?

Job Before Romance

I'm unemployed, handicapped, and want to find friends and romance

Job stagnation

How can I handle a job I do not like?

Job vs Career

Just Getting By' in school or your job - a short interview with Dr. John Lewis.

Judging Character

How can I choose between my two friends who hate each other?

Justice

Which is more important in dispensing justice - rewards or punishments? - a short interview with Dr. Tara Smith.

Justice

Why some people don't want you to pass judgment on others - a short interview with Dr. Andy Bernstein

Justice

My fiancé won't stop his toxic daughter from ruining my desire to marry him.

Justice

Should I visit my mean, abusive, but dying mom?

Justice

I get angry at rude disrespectful co-workers whom do not appreciate my hard work. (Begins at 5minutes 13 seconds)

Justice

My fiance won't stop his toxic daughter from ruining my desire to marry him.

Justice

My family shuns me because I identified a family thief.

Justice vs. Moral Equivalence

The injustice of blaming the victim

Kids and Sports

Tips to help your kids (and yourself) enjoy sports - a short interview with Dr. Judy Vanraalte.

Letting Go

My boyfriend still wants to be friends with his ex.

Liar's Guilt

(begins at 4m 51s) My guilt from cheating has ruined my life.

Life's Purpose

I don't know what my role in society should be.

Living a Lie

I am not physically attracted to my otherwise good husband.

Loneliness

I am a lonely schizophrenic.

Loneliness

I can't make any friends after my wife died.

Lonely for Brother

My older brother seems more emotionally distant since he moved far away.

Lying vs. Romance

I can't stop lying.

Making Friends

I lack social skills and am lonely.

Massage and Romance

How massage can help your romantic relationship - a short interview with therapist Gretchen Mason.

Mental Blank

Why does my mind go blank when I try to start a conversation?

Mental Block

It takes me hours to express what should take seconds.

Misunderstandings

Misinterpreting your partner's behavior - a short interview with Dr. Cory Newman

Mom vs. Stepmom

My ex’s new wife wants custody of my kids! (Starts at 6 minutes 10 seconds)

Money: Virtue or Vice?

Money: Root of all evil, or root of human flourishing - a short interview with Dr. Tara Smith.

Mother-In-Law Issue

How to fix a marriage made difficult by my mother-in-law.

Motivation and Success

The value of motivation - a short interview with Dr. John David Lewis

Mysterious Coworker

Should I worry about a co-worker who never talks about their outside life?

Myths About Slefishness

What selfishness actually is - a short interview with Journalist Peter Schwartz

Neighbor Wars

My neighbor won't stop doing things that annoy me.

No Friends

I can't help thinking that no one cares about me.

No Friends

1-I'm a stay at home mom with no friends. 2-Should men talk with other men about their emotions?

Nosy Sister

My sister gave out copies of my private journal.

Parents and my Ex.

My parents and my ex. husband seem like they gang up against me.

Partners in Romance

How to create a genuine romantic partnership - a short interview with Dr.Edwin Locke.

Passing Judgment

Why some people don't want you to pass judgment on others ~ a short interview with Dr. Andy Bernstein

Paying Attention

How can I stop my thoughts from wandering when other people talk?

Peacekeeper Mom

One family member always ruins family events.

Pets, Loss of

I'm terrified with the knowledge that my dog will soon die.

Polygamy

I am in an unhappy polygamist relationship.

Property Rights

My husband dumped garbage on our neighbors property.

Proud of Wealth

Why do so many people feel guilty spending their own money on themselves? A short interview with Dr. Tara Smith.

Psychological Independence

The importance of giving your child psychological independence - a short interview with Dr. John Lewis

Psychological Survival

I am dealing with endless serious physical and psychological trauma.

Racist Mom

My mom won't speak to me because I have black friends.

Rejected by Son

My adult son won't talk to me after my wife died.

Remarriage Issues

My remarriage is filled with misery, distrust, and seven kids.

Repairing a Friendship

My best friend thinks I am abandoning her if I find more frineds.

Repressed all Emotions

I am repressed and can't seem to make lasting friendships.

Repression - Tips to Overcome

My husband and I are accused of being too unemotional to raise kids.

Resentful Caretaker

I am becoming resentful of having a dependent blind partner.

Romance Tips

How to choose a romantic partner.

Romantic Exclusivity

My boyfriend can't stop being friends with his ex.

sacrifice

How can I avoid my old habit of being a doormat for others?

Sacrificed my Job

I gave up my great job because my husband insisted his job was more important.

Schizoaffective disorder

I can't get a job due to my past mental health issues.

Self Confidence

My controlling boss is also my controlling boyfriend.

Self Esteem

I have no self confidence

Self Esteem

I don't deserve to have friends.

Self Image

I am terribly unhappy with my large breasts.

Self-Isolation

Teenage son retreats from life into video games at the expense of his parents relationship.

Self-Isolation

Since my wife died, I am scared of most everything and have avoided others.

Selfish vs. Self Destructive

Myths about Selfishness - a short interview with journalist Peter Schwartz

Selfishness

Selfishness; Is it actually bad? A short interview with Journalist Peter Schwartz

Selfishness

Why do you (Dr.Kenner) claim love is selfish?

Selfishness

Isn't it selfish to follow your advice about assertive communication?

Senility

My elderly mom is losing it.

Sexual Abuse

I am afraid to start any romantic relationships due to being sexually abused when young.

Sexual Harassment

(begins at 4m 37s) I am haunted four years after being sexually harassed.

Shy Child

My young child is extremely shy

Shyness vs Confidence

Why am I shy, meek, and lack confidence?

Silent Treatment

My boyfriend deals with issues by using the silent treatment.

Sister Friction

How do I deal with the fact that my sister did not go to my mom's funeral?

Sociability

I don't get along with people.

Social Anxiety

I can't make eye contact with anyone, even with my family.

Social Anxiety

Overcoming the social anxiety of dating

Social Anxiety

I am so socially anxious that I have no friends and can't leave the house

Social Anxiety

Why do I get so nervous in social situations?

Speaking Up

How to take the first steps to defend your ideas - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser.

Spiteful Ex.

Dealing with my anger due to a spiteful ex.

Stress

Reducing stress via assertiveness - a short interview with Dr. Edwin Locke

Student Housing

My dad does not want me to live with him while I am a student.

Suspicion

How can I stop falsely accusing my husband of infidelity?

Suspicious of Boyfriend

Should I end a relationship having both good and bad aspects?

Teen Sex

Sex is becoming a diluted value for youth.

Temptation

What is an affair, and why are they so tempting? A short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler

The Gay Closet

I just got exposed to HIV from a gay encounter.

Trust

My fiancé loves animals because he doesn't trust people.

Trust

My girlfriend's roommates don't trust me.

Trust

I no longer trust anyone since my wife cheated with my best friend.

Undecided

My indecisive boyfriend has turned my world upside down.

Unearned Guilt

Enjoying your life at no one's expense.

Unearned Guilt

My brother abuses my parents

Unearned Guilt

(starts 7m39s) How to rule someone else's mind.

Unreachable Parents

Make your kids feel listened to.

Unwanted Romance

An old unpleasant girlfriend has made an unwelcome re-appearance into my life.

Vague Instructions

How should I deal with vague instructions or questions from a superior coworker?

Values - The Big Four

People are put off by my lack of emotion.

Verbal Abuse

I am an adult living with a verbally abusive mom.

violence

Warning signs of potential workplace violence. A short interview with Dr. James Campbell

Visitation (Parental)

Should I force my shy very young daughter to visit unsupervised with a dad she never met?

White Lies

Why they are harmful to your mental health.

Wife vs. Friend

My husband pays more attention to his friend than to me.

Workaholic

I'd rather go to work than be with my own family.

Workplace Liars

Bullies and liars at work have caused co-workers to be fired.

Workplace Violence

The stress at work is driving me crazy.

You Idiot!

I need help dealing with my anger.