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This has been a free public service since 1997. Why would a well known clinical psychologist answer your question for free and pay for the phone call too? Because Dr. Kenner makes her answer available on her podcast / talk show so others with the same issue can benefit. The show is a public service and is question-driven; your questions are the motor of the show.
This is not therapy
Although you will be receiving helpful advice from Dr. Kenner, remember that this is not therapy and cannot replace a fully contextual one-on-one relationship with a mental health professional.
"I wish I had done this 30 years ago." Rush returns and describes his therapy as a "wonderful process," "amazing," telling us "I'm so excited about what I learned and I want to tell you all about it." His euphoria about therapy is not the image that most people have of this soul-searching process. From the outside, many people think of therapy as arduous, draining and tear-jerking - a place where you go to express anger openly or experience guilt and pain - possibly to learn unfavorable things about yourself.... (more)
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"Reason never has failed men. Only force and oppression have made the wrecks in the world."
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The Virtue of Selfishness / Ayn Rand
Find out why honesty, integrity and justice are selfish and are virtues, and why bank robbery is not selfish and is a vice. Discover the difference between sacrificing for others and having a benevolence towards others.
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Obstacles to Happiness
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Sting Shift / Smith and Walstad
Arm yourself against scams, psychics and swindlers of all kinds. Written as an aid for law enforcement.
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The Truth About Avoiding Scams / Weisman
Scams are everywhere...
Now discover exactly how to protect yourself!
The truth about recognizing today's newest scams - online and off
The truth about safgeguarding your money, health, and reputation
The truth about phishing, vishing, pharming, slamming, and more
This book reveaks 61 proven bite-size, easy scam-proofing techniques that work
Getting Through to People The techniques of persuasion...how to break through the mental and emotional barriers between people / Jesse S. Nirenberg, Ph.D.
A timeless gem that is well worth reading. He has an extrodinary understanding of how to communicate to get ideas across, how to listen with the purpose of understanding another person, how to deal with heated emotions in conversations, how to detect and deal with another person's irrationality, how to hear mixed contexts in conversation and much more.
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The Virtue of Selfishness / Ayn Rand
Find out why honesty, integrity and justice are selfish and are virtues, and why bank robbery is not selfish and is a vice. Discover the difference between sacrificing for others and having a benevolence towards others.
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The SEX-STARVED Marriage - Boosting your marriage libido/ Michele Weiner Davis
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"Show me a couple who has a mutually satisfying sexual relationship and I'll show you a couple I can pick out of a crowd. There's an almost visible bond between them—the gentle touches, knowing glances, laughter and warmth when their eyes meet. You can feel the connection between them." (Davis, p. 32)
How many couples miss this with their partner? Sex becomes a chronic source of tension in too many relationships. One partner has a high drive; the other one has a "leave me alone" attitude. Michele Davis offers excellent advice for those wanting to rekindle their sexual relationship and strengthen their marriage. She makes astute observations, such as noting the assumption many woman have that their husbands want sex because "having sex is like scratching an itch; it's a purely physical need." She continues,"I am convinced that one of the grossest misunderstandings about sex is the belief many women have that men desire sex because they just want, or better yet, need a physical release. It's true that men (and some women) love an occasional quickie without much emotional hoopla. However I've been privileged to hear men describe the way they really feel when their wives aren't' interested. And if you've assumed that your husband wants sex just to "get off," what I've heard will undoubtedly surprise you." (David, p. 56-7)
This book is an easy read, with plenty of relatable examples and excellent tips, i.e., sexy solutions. Davis has an excellent understanding of both partner's dilemmas and she bridges the understanding and communication gap that so often leads couples to divorce or to suffer unhappy marriages. She helps you recapture that mutually satisfying sexual relationship, and more broadly, that soulmate relationship, you may have lost with your partner.
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful / Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D.
"If you're sticking around only out of guilt, fear or a sense of duty, you may want to rethink your decision, or prepare yourself for a life of self-imposed incarceration: you are the prisoner, and you are the keeper of the keys." "Affairs are not so much about sex, but about secrets and violation of trust" she says and she continues "trust is not a gift. It must be earned".
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk/ Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Not merely a parenting book, this is a delightful treasure chest of tips of how to communicate with anyone.
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How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk/ Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Do you remember how supportive and understanding your parents were during your teenage years? Do you recall how you could confide in them, how they trusted your judgment and how appreciative they were of your help?
For most, the answer is simple—“no!”
Flash forward: Would your own teenagers consider you loving and understanding? Do they confide in you? Do they feel trusted and appreciated by you? And…do you feel loved, understood, trusted and appreciated by your teens?
What gets in the way in the way of “yes” answers to these questions? In this book Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish explore the teenage years and help parents and teens get closer to “yes” answers. They show what goes wrong (e.g., blaming, name-calling, lecturing, playing martyr) and help both parents and teens develop an attitude of earned respect and appreciation for one another. Impossible? Think again—open the pages and hear the stories of parents who have just about given up on their teens—whether it’s dealing with sassing, homework, chores, hanging with the “wrong crowd” …sexual promiscuity, binge drinking, “experimenting with pot” or discovering that your daughter has plans to meet a strange man she’s been hooking up with on the internet— watch how the right attitude and skills dramatically improve life at home.
Enjoy this quick read that so effectively helps you achieve what you might have written off as impossible—a loving relationship with your teens.
Fighting Terrorism / Benjamin Netanyahu
The Prime Minister of Israel and a noted authority on international terrorists, Benjamin Netanyahu offers a compelling approach to understanding terrorism.
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Before It's Too Late / Stanton Samenow, Ph.D.
Why some kids get into trouble - and what parents can do about it.
Review by Daniel Pipes, director, Middle East Forum
"Wafa Sultan paints a scorching, unforgettable portrait of Syrian Muslim society, especially the degradation of it's women, and lyrically appreciates her adopted American homeland, which she calls 'the land of dreams.' But she also worries that Middle East customs are encroaching on the West and writes with passion to awaken Americans to a menace they barely recognize, much less fear."
Dr. Kenner has written many articles and presented many seminars and courses around the country. She is co-author of a serious guidebook on romance and has produced over 500 podcasts. See search bar above for topics.
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